Have you ever been told that you sound monotone or robotic when you speak?
I hear this a lot from my students and the biggest problem is this:
When you sound boring, people simply stop listening…
So, in this blog, I’ll be teaching you three simple voice hacks to sound more engaging when you speak so that people listen to you and engage with you even more when you are speaking or presenting.
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As a holistic voice and performance coach, many of my clients come to me with one major issue and that is they don’t feel heard, valued or respected in their world…
People simply don’t listen when they’re speaking. In fact, I remember one of my clients telling me that in many social situations, he’d be standing and telling his story to someone and they would simply lose focus and wander off or walk away, even when he was still talking! Can you imagine? That’s a horrible thing to experience and it can leave you feeling so hurt and rejected!
The worst-case scenario I’ve seen is that people who don’t feel heard and valued JUST…STOP…SPEAKING. They stopped sharing and engaging with other people because they’re so afraid of criticism and rejection.
If this resonates with you, then you are in the right place. Today, I have three simple voice hacks that will help you sound more engaging when you speak. You ready?
#1: THE ALIGNMENT OF CONFIDENCE .
Body language is the first thing that people notice about you and voice is the second. So, first things first. If you want to be heard, valued and respected, change your posture. Anxious and insecure people hunch their shoulders over and avoid eye contact. If you want to change your life, then this is the first place to start. I know it’s hard, but you CAN do it. Stand up tall, lift that sternum up just one more centimeter and you’ll feel tall and strong and grounded and more confident. Guess what? When you feel confident, you speak louder and when you speak with power and presence in your voice, it’s pretty hard to ignore you. Now, I don’t mean sounding annoyingly loud. That will drive people away but you DO need to be loud enough to be heard properly. People will switch off and literally lose interest in what you have to say if you make them work too hard. So, stand up, shoulders back and raise that volume just a little bit! It’ll make your voice much more interesting and engaging and gets you through that flat line robotics sound.
#2: USE SHORTER SENTENCES
Many people who struggle with a robotic monotone voice are actually lacking in confidence. So, when they tend to get nervous, they start to speak fast and ramble and use too many filler words. Again, people pay attention when they can understand you clearly and follow your ideas easily. If you ramble on and on and on with little or no punctuation in your sentences, it’s too much work for the listener to follow. So, start becoming really disciplined when you speak. Pay attention to how long your sentences are. A convoluted, long sentence is harder to follow and will bore people easily. It takes a little bit of practice and mindfulness but it makes a huge difference to how you are perceived by others. Perception is everything. Why don’t you try recording your voice with a voice recorder on your phone and just telling yourself a short story? Then listen back to the recording and ask yourself if I was a stranger listening to this, would I find it engaging…or would I find it boring?
#3: BREAK THE MINDSET BLOCKAGE
You want to know the REAL truth behind the monotone issue? Are you ready? After teaching thousands of people around the world for over 20 years as a voice and performance coach, there is only one thing that became glaringly obvious to me: A monotone or flat sounding voice, nine times out of ten, is usually not a voice issue at all. It’s a mindset and confidence issue. The psychology behind the sound of your voice is one of my specialties and it’s a huge part of all my voice training programs for a very good reason. If you’ve experienced bullying or abuse or trauma in your life, it all shows up through the voice and the voice patterns that you use when you speak.
When somebody sounds monotone or boring, it’s usually because they’ve got some fear around speaking up for themselves and being heard. Something that happened in their past stopped them from being able to speak up. There are some blockages to self-expression that really needs to be explored and understood before we can really fix that monotone issue for good. A great place to start is to sign up for my mini course called “Change your voice, change your life”. The course is especially designed to help you break through those mental, emotional and physical blockages to self-expression so you can start building more confidence in your speaking skills and in your life in general. It’s a really great place to start – check out the link in the description box below. However, if you are serious about succeeding in your career and you want to fast track that success, I have 3 training programs that can really help you do that! You will see below a link in the description to book in for a free consultation.
I hope you found that helpful today. Please dig deep and find what the real issue is for you. Please drop a comment if you found this helpful. I’d love to know what questions you have around voice and presentation skills.
Do not forget: Speak up. Speak out. Be ready to be heard because remember: YOUR VOICE MATTERS.